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Honeymoon – This is the beginning of the relationship. Both parties are actually acting abnormally. Not as in wrong but differently to what they normally would. Both are acting out of their secondary behaviours in a way that they know subconsciously their new potential partner wants them to and will be pleasing to their potential new partner.
Every thing is wonderful - in love
Plateau Stage – During this stage, the partners tend to take each other for granted. Behave and communicate in their normal style, both of you have changed, although you don't see the changes in yourself, only in your partner as you believe this is the way you have always been. (with sexual behaviour tending to level off.) Some couples can just sit in this stage, at one level comprising and justifying that its all right, I made my bed I have to lie in it. This is not normally a very happy or in love existence. On the other hand if the oppositeness of each other become more and more apparent, now it is choice time, you can either keep accentuating the oppositeness to extremes of each other and spiral into trauma.
Trauma Stage – At this point the partners head and heart behaviour is exaggerated. This leads to a breakdown of communication. Finances and sex become issues. Both feel rejected - You often go round in circles: Honeymoon - Plateau- Trauma - Honeymoon - Plateau- Trauma -Honeymoon - Plateau- Trauma - Or sit in plateau stage. Don't rock the boat, safe. Solutions"You can't keep doing the same thing and expect a different result" - Albert Einstein" You may look for Relationship Mentoring, Coaching or Counselling. and / or Do a course in Personal Relationship Solutions |